Friday, September 19, 2014

Redeeming Home

Stone House - Photo by Rebekah Pascoe
 Years ago I fell in love with a 100+year-old farm house.  I had never been in it but when I saw it sitting on the hill, set back from the road, nestled in trees,  I imagined my family living there.  One day as we drove by I noticed there were no curtains in the windows and wondered if it was available to rent?  Upon further inquiry, we learned that it was and rented it on the spot, sight unseen.

When we got the keys and were able to get inside we found that the condition of the house was pretty awful.  Its original pine board floors were scratched and dull.  Interior doors were broken.  Every wall was drab, dirty, full of nail holes, and looked as if they hadn't been painted in 20-years.  An old dirty rug, that kicked up dust when you walked on it was tacked to the floor in the dining-room.   The wall behind the stove was so grease-splattered that it required the use an electric sander to get it off.  Needless to say, when I entered the house I was overwhelmed.  I walked around the rooms saying to myself, "What have you done?"


After the initial shock wore off, I began to take a critical look at the house.  Its bones were good.  Straight walls, original floors, oak bannister, original wainscoting in the kitchen, two fireplaces, newer windows, and the views... they were stunning!

So, I set off to work.  Scrub, scrape, paint, wallpaper, and more paint, paint, paint!  My goal one afternoon was to paint the interior of the entry closet.  To prepare the walls, I had to scrape through layers of wallpaper (who wallpapers the inside of a closet?!).  Oh, how purely tedious and mind-numbing such a job!  Scrape, scrape, scrape ... finally I reached the bottom layer.  What I discovered there was a lovey rose-colored floral wallpaper and I immediately felt transported back to the time when this house was built.  Who was the lady who choose this wallpaper?  I thought of how proud she must have been of her home on the hill at the edge of town with its oak stairwell and gleaming pine floors.  I thought of how cozy her home may have felt after she hung this warm-colored paper.  Did she and her family sit each evening reading in front of the marble fireplace?  Who knew that such a drudge job would result in a wave of nostalgia, a taste of romance, and such inspiration?

Up On the Farm  - Rebekah Pascoe
 In the following years, I continued my work in redeeming that dilapidated  farm-house.  The old floors were sanded and polished till they shone like honey; the walls were painted, wall-papered and hand-stenciled; every corner of every closet gleamed with fresh white paint; the doors were straightened; and that old house regained its stature.

A home once again ... the dining room housed family and friends for Sunday dinners, the aroma of home-made soups wafted through the kitchen, colorful flowers spilled out of their boxes on the porch, and a young mother sat in the living room each evening reading to her children, a boy and a girl, one at each side snuggled up against her.

During the years that I lived there, I often thought of that first lady  ... of the connection that I felt to her. My hope was that she would have been proud of the work that I did to the house that we both called home.

In that closet, I left a small swatch of the rose-colored wallpaper in her honor.


"It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home."  - Anonymous

Seen Better Days - photo by Rebekah Pascoe


Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Jesus in Disguise


Insignificant - unimportant; too small to be important; of no consequence, influence, or distinction; without meaning, meaningless.

A patient I have seen for six months died recently.  She was a woman who lived with her daughter after she was diagnosed with heart disease, then she was moved to a nursing home.  Upon entering the nursing home, I noticed a marked decline, not only in her physical demeanor and stamina, but in her emotional well-being; she was very depressed.  On my third visit to her in the nursing home,  as I began the massage, she cried out to me, "Oh I cannot bear the insignificance!!"  Selah

Though this woman was diagnosed with heart disease, I believe what hastened her death was a broken heart.  She was deeply lonely, displaced, felt she had no value, and served no purpose; life had lost all meaning.

Nursing homes in America, for the most part, are warehouses for our elders, the last stop in the journey of life.  When I walk through them I see people sitting (perhaps for hours) in wheel chairs.  Many are bent over, unnoticed, and unattended to by the over-worked staff.  Many are in medicated stupors.  They are under-stimulated. They live in cramped rooms shared with a room-mate who talks too much or not at all, and plays the TV way too loud.  And then there are the smells....

The loneliest people in our culture live there...

Our elders live there...

Our parents live there ...

Our dad lives there ...

Our mom lives there...

Jesus lives there ... in disguise

Will you visit Him?

Touch Him with tenderness?

Smile at Him with warmth?

Gently wipe the saliva off of His chin?

Look into His eyes and hold His gaze?

Listen, even if it is an incoherent utterance?

...respond?

Will you love Him?

Honor Him?

"... I was sick, and you visited Me..."

"Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me" Matt. 25:35,36,40
  


"Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat." -  Mother Teresa

 Musical Inspiration:  Follow You

Oh! ... that not another human soul cry out in utter emptiness and despair.  Hear our prayer.  Selah